I see you.

I made an unexpected and somewhat impulsive decision today. 

I decided on a whim to call my students.  Specifically those students in my online Dance Appreciation class who have not signed into the course for over 1 or 2 weeks. 

There were 7 students total (out of 47).  Not a terrible number. 

1 had a disconnected/wrong number
1 rang but didn't go to voicemail
2 received friendly messages from me
and 3 picked up.

I don't know what I expected, but it seems that those 3 people with whom I connected were totally shocked that I cared enough to call.  I realize now that they expected to be invisible. That they expected to be insignificant to me. One even said she was flattered that I took the time to call which she agreed was totally unconventional. 

Each expressed gratitude. Each asked if they could still finish the class.  Each needed the encouragement. And, each needed to be seen.

Well, I see you.

I see you.  I care.  And, I want you to be successful. 

I see you, and you are not insignificant. You are not invisible.  You matter.  Your presence is noticed, and it matters. 

I realize now just how important it is to let the people in our lives know this.  To remind them that their presence is important.  To see them. And, let them know you are there for them. 

I am glad I took the unconventional route. People so often don't need a stick but a carrot to motivate them. 

And, I prefer carrots too.